As both of you who regularly frequent this space already know, DDOGamer is ready and willing to answer your game-related or relationship questions. Especially the relationship questions. Like this one, from astute DDOGamer reader Briid:
Hey Geoff, I know it’s not specifically related to your post today, but… do you think you might do a blurb on the different servers you’ve played on? My Gamer Man and I are on Khyber, which feels a trifle like a ghost town now (we had taken a nearly-two-year hiatus), and were wondering about poking around on other servers. Can you tell us/anyone else who wonders what your opinions are? Picking a server is a total crapshoot…
Briid, while it may seem strange and unusual to you now, I can assure that it is normal to go through a period where you both want to “poke around” on other “servers”. There is even a term for it; the “seven-year itch”. Not just a movie but an actual, quantified psychological phenomena. While these yearnings may seem unwanted and even foreign, they are perfectly normal.
The key is to stop worrying about why you and your Gamer Man are experiencing this seemingly rough patch, but instead accept each other as living, breathing, biological creatures who are probably both mammals. You may want to consider therapy (preferably couples therapy but any old therapy will do in a pinch, even physical therapy), a weekly date night (dates are a healthy, low calorie snack), and lots and lots of alcohol.
Bear in mind, alcohol is much cheaper than a psychiatrist, is easily portable – you can take it to work with you – and is now even organic! Put a bottle or two in your purse, briefcase, and glove box and you’ll be a much more spirited couple.
So with that issue resolved, let’s move on to the rest of Briid’s question: what is a good server for returning players?
And this is problematic. In years past I sort of spread myself around but now I play exclusively on Sarlona. I really do not have the chops to give you any decently up-to-date information about any of the other servers.
I can’t find anything more current on the site.
Beyond that, I have to throw your question out to the crowd. So everyone pay attention, this is important: Please reply with a brief statement about your server.
I’ll go first: I play on Sarlona. There are always LFMs up, all day. I usually see at least one other person when I traverse public instances like the Marketplace. It can be tough to fill a group, especially if you are running something out of the ordinary like Tower of Despair. People who join my PUG invites are generally nice; either I luck out and avoid the abusive PUG sort of people or they have sorted themselves out of the game/off the server.
So come on people, pitch in and help Briid and her Gamer Man. Use my example as a template, or don’t, whatever, but please DO RESPOND!
Tell us about your server!
Come on, do it!
🙂 😀 🙂